I have had a lot of people ask if they should get back together with their ex. Well, my friend you are the one who is most qualified to answer that. What seems to be most confusing is that after a breakup everyone involved is running on their emotions. It's almost impossible to think straight and decisions made at that time are often a mistake.
You should take a few weeks to a month to think things through, possibly longer if you still have trouble thinking rationally. You can only really do this successfully if you have no contact with your ex during this time. You need to consider the question of whether or not you really want to get back together with your ex.
It's easy to fall into the trap of telling yourself that you love them so much you'll never be happy without them. That is not usually true and people do go on with their lives and fall in love again after breakups. Sometimes there are very good reasons NOT to get back together. For example, if your ex is physically or emotionally abusive. Realize that you are a valuable person and deserve to be treated kindly and with respect.
You should consider what the negatives were in your relationship and what could be done to fix them. If your ex lover is not interested in making changes, you are just asking for trouble. Most likely, whatever faults they have are not going to just go away. If they won't keep a job and contribute to the bills now then that will continue to be a problem if you get back together. If they drink excessively, they're not likely to stop just because you agree to take them back.
Again, you are the one who knows best what their problems are. Some people will promise to do anything if you will take them back, but those promises are empty ones that will be broken. Don't make the mistake of taking someone back over and over just because you really want to believe them! It's much smarter to make them prove that they will stop or start something that has been a problem before you get back together.
If you see a lot of positives in your relationship then you may decide it's worth it to try again. Set some clear guidelines and take things slowly - for both your sakes. A good relationship requires work and commitment on both sides.
Wednesday, May 8, 2013
Wednesday, April 3, 2013
Simple 5 Step Guide To Get Your Ex Back!
Wouldn’t it be great if you had a guide to follow to get your ex back?
Most of the time after you break up you will be too upset to think things through. People tend to do all the wrong things to get back with their ex and end up driving them away. It’s miserable being dumped and usually we do a lot of crazy things.
You need to have a cool head and take the steps that will bring the two of you together again.
That’s why I made this guide to help those of you who will do whatever it takes to get back with your ex.
5 Step Guide to Get Your Ex Back:
1. Figure out what was wrong. Obviously something happened to make your ex break it off. You may know exactly what it was or it may take some soul searching. Whether it was an argument or a series of things, if you don’t know the problem, you can’t fix it.
2. Have no contact for a month. While a month feel like forever to you, you really need that time apart from your ex. Both of you need time to process things and let your emotions die down so you can think rationally. The other reason for no contact is that you ex lover will most likely miss you and think about you. You want to give them breathing space so they can do this.
3. Write a letter to your ex. The letter is an effective tool to say what you want without having any confrontation. In the letter you should apologize if you’ve been bugging them a lot and let them know you just went a bit nuts. Tell them you’ve had time to realize that they were right in breaking up with you, you think it’s a good idea! You can even go so far as to say that you had been considering it for awhile. You don’t need to go into detail, believe me, that’s enough! It definitely won’t be what they are expecting. You will be surprised how it can change their thinking about you and realize that you just might not come running back.
4. Give a thoughtful and sincere apology. When your month of no contact has gone by and you are feeling more in control of yourself, you need to have an apology ready. Just think of something that you know you need to say I’m sorry for, and can be sincere about it. Even if you’re thinking, it’s partly their fault, that should be put aside for now. A real apology will clear the air and actually be a relief to you.
5. Do not use the word “but” in your apology! The word “but” should definitely not be said! Your apology may be going along nicely and then you say “but” and it’s downhill from there. Saying that switches the blame that you need to take to them, and that will put their back up, and most likely start an argument. So far from clearing the air and making things right, you’ll cause further damage and come across as insincere. Be sincere and have your apology well thought out and you can make some real progress.
By following these steps you may be surprised at how much good response you’ll get from your ex.
Keep it mind that people do make up every day. Most important is to be cool, calm and not try to hurry things along. You don’t want to rush things and undo all the good you’ve done by following the 5 steps to get your ex back.
One of the best materials I’ve ever read about mending relationships is the Magic of Making Up by T. Dubb Jackson. If you want a step-by-step guide to effectively get your ex back, check it out. Join the thousands they have helped reuinte with their lovers by following this link to the "Magic of Making Up" site now!
Most of the time after you break up you will be too upset to think things through. People tend to do all the wrong things to get back with their ex and end up driving them away. It’s miserable being dumped and usually we do a lot of crazy things.
You need to have a cool head and take the steps that will bring the two of you together again.
That’s why I made this guide to help those of you who will do whatever it takes to get back with your ex.
5 Step Guide to Get Your Ex Back:
1. Figure out what was wrong. Obviously something happened to make your ex break it off. You may know exactly what it was or it may take some soul searching. Whether it was an argument or a series of things, if you don’t know the problem, you can’t fix it.
2. Have no contact for a month. While a month feel like forever to you, you really need that time apart from your ex. Both of you need time to process things and let your emotions die down so you can think rationally. The other reason for no contact is that you ex lover will most likely miss you and think about you. You want to give them breathing space so they can do this.
3. Write a letter to your ex. The letter is an effective tool to say what you want without having any confrontation. In the letter you should apologize if you’ve been bugging them a lot and let them know you just went a bit nuts. Tell them you’ve had time to realize that they were right in breaking up with you, you think it’s a good idea! You can even go so far as to say that you had been considering it for awhile. You don’t need to go into detail, believe me, that’s enough! It definitely won’t be what they are expecting. You will be surprised how it can change their thinking about you and realize that you just might not come running back.
4. Give a thoughtful and sincere apology. When your month of no contact has gone by and you are feeling more in control of yourself, you need to have an apology ready. Just think of something that you know you need to say I’m sorry for, and can be sincere about it. Even if you’re thinking, it’s partly their fault, that should be put aside for now. A real apology will clear the air and actually be a relief to you.
5. Do not use the word “but” in your apology! The word “but” should definitely not be said! Your apology may be going along nicely and then you say “but” and it’s downhill from there. Saying that switches the blame that you need to take to them, and that will put their back up, and most likely start an argument. So far from clearing the air and making things right, you’ll cause further damage and come across as insincere. Be sincere and have your apology well thought out and you can make some real progress.
By following these steps you may be surprised at how much good response you’ll get from your ex.
Keep it mind that people do make up every day. Most important is to be cool, calm and not try to hurry things along. You don’t want to rush things and undo all the good you’ve done by following the 5 steps to get your ex back.
One of the best materials I’ve ever read about mending relationships is the Magic of Making Up by T. Dubb Jackson. If you want a step-by-step guide to effectively get your ex back, check it out. Join the thousands they have helped reuinte with their lovers by following this link to the "Magic of Making Up" site now!
Sunday, November 4, 2012
Wanting To Know If My Ex Boyfriend Still Has Feelings For Me? 5 Signals That Say He Does!
You broke up and are miserable wondering "does my ex boyfriend still have feelings for me?".
It can certainly be unbearable when you feel like you are still in love with somebody who doesn’t love you back. Take heart in realizing that breakups aren’t always permanent, you may know someone who’s gotten back together with their ex. Usually the relationship is stronger after they get back together.
There are signs you can look for to show if your ex boyfriend still cares about you.
He may seem nervous around you and this should be encouraging to you. There are steps you can take to help him open up and things you should be doing to encourage his interest in the right way. So, if you are sensing that your ex boyfriend still has feelings for you, it’s important to have a plan in mind and act on it!
"There's no reason you should sit there and feel miserable without your lover any longer. Learn more about how "The Magic of Making Up" can effectively get your ex back today. Join the thousands of happy couples who've already been reunited with the love of their lives. Visit us now at The Magic of Making Up - click here!
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It can certainly be unbearable when you feel like you are still in love with somebody who doesn’t love you back. Take heart in realizing that breakups aren’t always permanent, you may know someone who’s gotten back together with their ex. Usually the relationship is stronger after they get back together.
There are signs you can look for to show if your ex boyfriend still cares about you.
- Has your ex boyfriend said he wants to still be friends? If so, take that as a good sign! That indicates that he still has feelings for you. What it can mean for you is a chance to get closer to him and maybe someday become a pair again.
- If your ex is texting you or phoning you, emailing you or any other form of contact you can take this as a sign that he still has feelings for you. Notice how often he does it and you may begin to see a pattern, which means it’s important to him.
- When you talk to your ex on a regular basis and he says that he misses you. At some level he is missing the sharing and close times he had with you and is looking to see if you also miss him.
- He doesn’t avoid you completely when he sees you. Even just saying a polite, “hello, how are you is a good thing and shows he still has some interest in you.
- Your ex boyfriend may even ask you if you are dating anyone. This is the time to answer honestly and not give into the impulse to make him jealous by pretending you’re going out with some wonderful guy. After all, your goal is not to drive him away.
He may seem nervous around you and this should be encouraging to you. There are steps you can take to help him open up and things you should be doing to encourage his interest in the right way. So, if you are sensing that your ex boyfriend still has feelings for you, it’s important to have a plan in mind and act on it!
"There's no reason you should sit there and feel miserable without your lover any longer. Learn more about how "The Magic of Making Up" can effectively get your ex back today. Join the thousands of happy couples who've already been reunited with the love of their lives. Visit us now at The Magic of Making Up - click here!
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