It's easy for you to figure out what you are thinking and feeling. When your ex walked out you felt heartbroken, betrayed and miserable. It leaves you feeling like you won't ever be happy again.
What about your ex? It's not easy being the "bad guy", the one who had to break it off. Even if your ex lover felt justified in saying goodbye that doesn't mean they feel good about it. After all, if they loved you then they still have strong feelings and emotions concerning you. They don't like thinking about the fact that they broke your heart and it makes them miserable and upset.
Their feelings about you are painful for them right now and they tend to want to avoid you. When something is painful, people draw away from it. The best thing you can do is to give them the space that they need. Stop calling them up or emailing or text messaging. Don't contact them for several weeks or a month, at least.
You want them to wonder why they haven't heard from you. They expect you to be thinking about them all the time and calling them. When you stop, you turn the tables. You are now in a position of power and when you do call they will want to talk to you.
You want your ex to think that they can't just have you back whenever they crook their little fingers. People really fight for what seems to be slipping out of their grasp. You can really get them to change their thinking if they think you are leaving them!
When you've decided that it's time to call them, you should have a solid plan of what you want to say. The last thing you want to do is lose control and blow the advantage that you've gained. There are techniques you need to use when you see or talk to them next.
It's important that follow the right steps if you want to be successful. A step-by-step program that has proven to work is called the Magic of Making Up - click here to see. You can watch some videos for more ideas on what to do there. A complete plan is what you need if you want to get your ex back.
