I have had a lot of people ask if they should get back together with their ex. Well, my friend you are the one who is most qualified to answer that. What seems to be most confusing is that after a breakup everyone involved is running on their emotions. It's almost impossible to think straight and decisions made at that time are often a mistake.
You should take a few weeks to a month to think things through, possibly longer if you still have trouble thinking rationally. You can only really do this successfully if you have no contact with your ex during this time. You need to consider the question of whether or not you really want to get back together with your ex.
It's easy to fall into the trap of telling yourself that you love them so much you'll never be happy without them. That is not usually true and people do go on with their lives and fall in love again after breakups. Sometimes there are very good reasons NOT to get back together. For example, if your ex is physically or emotionally abusive. Realize that you are a valuable person and deserve to be treated kindly and with respect.
You should consider what the negatives were in your relationship and what could be done to fix them. If your ex lover is not interested in making changes, you are just asking for trouble. Most likely, whatever faults they have are not going to just go away. If they won't keep a job and contribute to the bills now then that will continue to be a problem if you get back together. If they drink excessively, they're not likely to stop just because you agree to take them back.
Again, you are the one who knows best what their problems are. Some people will promise to do anything if you will take them back, but those promises are empty ones that will be broken. Don't make the mistake of taking someone back over and over just because you really want to believe them! It's much smarter to make them prove that they will stop or start something that has been a problem before you get back together.
If you see a lot of positives in your relationship then you may decide it's worth it to try again. Set some clear guidelines and take things slowly - for both your sakes. A good relationship requires work and commitment on both sides.
