Do you know what the most important thing you can do to get your ex back?
There really is one thing that will make the most difference. Believe me, I’ve learned from experience. It’s also something that I have to be willing to do whenever it’s needed to my husband of 32 years. It’s one of the keys to having a good relationship.
The most important thing you can do to mend a break is apologize!
It’s certainly not as easy as it sounds. Whenever people have to say I’m sorry it is very humbling and difficult to do. It’s also what makes the most impact. I’m talking about a sincere, well thought out apology here.
I know if you’ve recently broken up that you are still feeling hurt and may be too upset to really think things through.
Believe me, I’ve been there and there’s nothing I wouldn’t do to guarantee that I’ll never be there again! Sitting by the phone and waiting for him or her to call really won’t help, even though you may not feel like doing anything else right now.
Give yourself some time to heal – at least a month or so.
It’s going to be difficult too really get inside yourself and think things through rationally, which is what you need to do. The goal should be to figure out the problems in your relationship. You’ll need to know what you need to work on when you do get back together.
Now, to talk about the apology.
Once you have thought things through you should be able to clearly see where you were wrong. This is the time to focus on yourself and your problems, not your partners. Then you can think of exactly what and how to say you are sorry for. Your ex will be able to tell if you really mean it and it’s something you’ve given some thought to. Not just an I’m sorry, can I come back apology. When you do this you should feel better – it’s a relief to get things out. Probably your ex will want to admit some things on their part also.
Once you’ve done that you’ve got an excellent start on mending your relationship.
Remember not to push anything or ask for anything. This really is the most important thing you can do, so make sure you put the effort into it.
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There's no reason you should sit there and feel miserable without your lover any longer.
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