Wouldn’t it be great if you had a guide to follow to get your ex back?
Most of the time after you break up you will be too upset to think things through. People tend to do all the wrong things to get back with their ex and end up driving them away. It’s miserable being dumped and usually we do a lot of crazy things.
You need to have a cool head and take the steps that will bring the two of you together again.
That’s why I made this guide to help those of you who will do whatever it takes to get back with your ex.
5 Step Guide to Get Your Ex Back:
1. Figure out what was wrong. Obviously something happened to make your ex break it off. You may know exactly what it was or it may take some soul searching. Whether it was an argument or a series of things, if you don’t know the problem, you can’t fix it.
2. Have no contact for a month. While a month feel like forever to you, you really need that time apart from your ex. Both of you need time to process things and let your emotions die down so you can think rationally. The other reason for no contact is that you ex lover will most likely miss you and think about you. You want to give them breathing space so they can do this.
3. Write a letter to your ex. The letter is an effective tool to say what you want without having any confrontation. In the letter you should apologize if you’ve been bugging them a lot and let them know you just went a bit nuts. Tell them you’ve had time to realize that they were right in breaking up with you, you think it’s a good idea! You can even go so far as to say that you had been considering it for awhile. You don’t need to go into detail, believe me, that’s enough! It definitely won’t be what they are expecting. You will be surprised how it can change their thinking about you and realize that you just might not come running back.
4. Give a thoughtful and sincere apology. When your month of no contact has gone by and you are feeling more in control of yourself, you need to have an apology ready. Just think of something that you know you need to say I’m sorry for, and can be sincere about it. Even if you’re thinking, it’s partly their fault, that should be put aside for now. A real apology will clear the air and actually be a relief to you.
5. Do not use the word “but” in your apology! The word “but” should definitely not be said! Your apology may be going along nicely and then you say “but” and it’s downhill from there. Saying that switches the blame that you need to take to them, and that will put their back up, and most likely start an argument. So far from clearing the air and making things right, you’ll cause further damage and come across as insincere. Be sincere and have your apology well thought out and you can make some real progress.
By following these steps you may be surprised at how much good response you’ll get from your ex.
Keep it mind that people do make up every day. Most important is to be cool, calm and not try to hurry things along. You don’t want to rush things and undo all the good you’ve done by following the 5 steps to get your ex back.
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