How to Deal With a Break Up and Get to the Making Up!

Have you experienced the pain of having to deal with a break up?

I know firsthand how miserable it is. You would do just about anything to be able to make up. Unfortunately, most of us go about getting our ex back totally the wrong way.

It helps to have a little insight into the mind of your ex.

However, it’s usually such a devastating blow that we can’t think straight, let alone figure out what it is that our partner wants. We react irrationally and go a little crazy. Let me explain what I mean.

Your ex has said that they “want some space” or words to that effect.

That usually upsets us so much that space is the last thing we want to give them. I remember going through some heartbreaks of my own before I got married and feeling panicky and not knowing what to do. What usually happens is that we start calling up our ex lovers multiple times a day and leaving constant messages. Or it may be text messaging or emailing, or a combination of those. Either way, our ex gets annoyed and ends up withdrawing further away from us.

You need to back off and stop pestering them.

We really need to respect their request for space. It may be really hard but you need to back off and stop pestering them. You have to tell yourself that this is your best chance at getting them to want to see or speak to you in the future. A month, at least is recommended so that your emotions can calm down and both of you can start thinking and acting rationally. After a whole month without contact, you may find that your ex really does miss you and is open to talking again.

What to do when you meet again:

• Make sure that when you do talk to them you know what to say.
• Make them feel like you are on the same page as they are.
• Agree with their reasons for breaking up – major points for this!
• Apologize sincerely for what you did wrong – without placing any blame on them!
• Have some ideas ready for how to make some changes to make things better.

Your ex will likely be most pleasantly surprised if you are able to do those things.

This is the way to move from wondering how to deal with a break up and get to the making up. You should impress your ex with your sincerity and desire to commit to changes. It's important to have a solid plan to follow so you don't blow things.

Are you tired of feeling miserable without your ex? Learn more about a plan that you can follow to effectively get your ex back today. Join the thousands of happy couples who've already been reunited with the love of their lives. Visit us now at The Magic of Making Up - click here!

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