Thinking of Tying The Knot? 5 Tips To Make Sure You Stay Together

Did you know that love does NOT conquer all?

You see, often people get married with the idea
that their “chemistry” or undying love for each
other will keep them together forever.

However, with almost 50% of marriages ending in
divorce these days, it’s obvious that this isn’t
the case. Therefore, it pays to know a few little
secrets before getting married.

Here are 5 tips that help keep couples together
long after tying the knot:



TIP#1 -- CONTINUE DATING

Over the years, people often drift apart or
relationships and marriages become stale because
couples fail to do new and special things together.

That's why going on new and refreshing dates is so
important. In fact, there is something about
“dating” that creates a sense of magic in a
relationship and can even bring relationships out
of a rut.

While on a date, you also put more effort into your
appearance, have more uninterrupted time to
communicate on a deeper level and are naturally
drawn closer together.

Stuck for ideas? Spend the day at the aquarium,
zoo, museum, carnival, bookstore, beach or park.


TIP#2 -- DELAY IS OFTEN BETTER

It’s a well-documented statistic that couples who
have dated for a year or longer before marriage
have a significantly lower rate of divorce than
those who married after a short dating period.

A year of dating gives time for many emotions to
surface and many character traits to be discovered.
You may adore someone in the spring, but despise
him or her in the winter.

Asking someone for his or her hand in marriage on
the third date isn't romantic. It's gambling.


TIP#3 -- ALWAYS EXPRESS YOUR LOVE

Oftentimes, as a relationship matures, partners
tend to stop praising each other because they
'assume' their partner already knows what they're
thinking.

When in reality, a day should never go by without
you praising your partner. Compliment them on their
cooking, reaffirm that they're the greatest person
in the world or tell them they’re a wonderful role
model. If you want to be loved and romanced by your
sweetheart, love and romance them first. When
they're feeling loved, it is much easier to love in
return.

Are you a super supporter of what your mate does
and says? So do you cheer them on and praise them
constantly? Or do they constantly hear boos or
silence?


TIP#4 -- TAKE TIME TO UNDERSTAND YOUR PARTNER

Couples with the most problems are often the ones
that say, "I just don't understand him/her."

So let me ask you: How knowledgeable are you about
your mate's profession or the degree they are
pursuing? Do you know anything about his or her
family heritage? Are you able to have a meaningful
conversation about her cross-stitch hobby or his
interest in rugby? If you are a man, do you fully
understand what women experience during PMS or
menopause?

You don't need to be identical, but make an effort
to learn about the things that interest your
partner in life and you'll grow closer as a result.


TIP#5 -- ANSWER THE *BIG* QUESTIONS

Does your partner want kids? Do you both want
careers? Do they have a history of spending their
way into debt? Do they go to church?

In my opinion, the biggest reason almost half of
marriages end in divorce is because couples fail to
ask each other the right questions BEFORE they get
married.

I guess people think they'll be able to change
their spouses after marriage and everything will be
better. Wrong. If you fail to sit down and discuss
finances, religion, sex, housing, your future, and
other topics in great detail, you could end up with
nothing but argument after argument for the rest of
your days.

In the end, if you both have completely different
views, desires and goals in life, there’s no
guarantee that chemistry or "I love you’s" will
help you stay together.

Make it your utmost priority to understand each
other 'inside-out' BEFORE you take that walk down
the aisle.

About the author:

Michael Webb is the author of “1000 Questions For
Couples" the most comprehensive book of questions
that all couples should ask before getting married.
Covering lovemaking, religion, careers, money,
children & raising them, household work,
personalities, the future and much much more.

How To Stop Thinking About Your Ex

If break ups are tough on any part of you it's your mind. It's simply impossible to get your get out of your head. Everything you see and a lot of your surroundings only seem to remind you of them. Finding relief from these constant reminders can be difficult. You want to move on but find that it's an uphill battle with them everywhere in your thoughts and in what's around you. So how can you stop thinking about your ex if you want to get over them?

One of the first things you need to do is get away from wherever you've be hanging out all this time so you can experience life again. Get off your couch, out of your bedroom, out of the house, just get out and try and be sociable again. You'll probably find you need to make yourself have fun if it's a friendly outing, but the main purpose of doing this is to distract your mind from something other than your ex. Don't be shy about meeting new people either, they can really help ease the pain after a break up so you can move on.

Now is that time to take up a new hobby or activity you've been putting off for so long. Learning something new will let your mind concentrate on doing it right and properly so your mind will be distracted as well. Physical activity has it's own way of working things out so if you chose to work out again it will go a bit further if distracting your thoughts than other activities. People commonly throw themselves into their work at this stage too. With their mind constantly on doing their job better they have less time to think about their ex. Slowly, but surely, time will make the pain go away as you continue to press forward.

There's a multitude of other ways to stop thinking about your ex out there. What's important is that you find one or two of them and take some action and do them. Until you find the will power to get out of the house, off of your computer, and back out into the world again you won't get be able to stop thinking about your ex.

Wanting To Get Your Ex Back? – 5 Ways To Say I’m Sorry

Are you miserable and wanting your ex back, if so you really need to be able to say "I'm sorry" and mean it! People don't always give enough credit to how powerful a sincere apology is toward mending a relationship. You may wonder why you should be the one to apologize when it takes two to argue? It really doesn't matter at this point, what you need to do now is wipe the slate clean.

After all, you are at least 50% responsible for the arguments and fights you had. Search yourself and you can surely find some things that you need to apologize for. Doing this right takes sincere effort on your part.

5 Ways to make it impossible to resist your apology:

1. Be sincere - truly confess what you did that was wrong. An insincere apolgy is not worth anything. You will feel relief and likely a lot of the negative feelings between the two of you will start to dissolve.

2. Be prepared - don’t rush into your apology. Think things through and have a plan for what you are going to say. Word things in a way that will make your ex realize that you put a lot of thought into your apology.

3. Never say “but” – This word is used when you want to put part of the blame on someone else. Don't undo what good you have done up to this point by trying to shift the blame.

4. No arguing – If your ex has trouble accepting your apology right away, don’t argue about it. You did break up and they need some time to make sure you mean it.

5. Make positive changes – Follow up your apology with working on changing your negative behaviors. You need to take action to show that your words meant something.


Really try hard to convince your ex that you are on their side, which is the whole meaning of the apology. You should agree with their decision to break up and let them know you want to work on the problems. This can make a real difference when they think you take their concerns seriously. If you've been afraid to make a move, don't wait any longer to make a sincere apology. It may end up being the key to getting your ex back.

Learn what moves are the "right" moves that will trigger the response you want from your ex. Don't blow it by acting on emotions alone, follow a plan of action designed to get your ex back. Find out the steps you need to follow in the Magic of Making Up system. It has a solid plan that has been proven to work. Find out more about it here!